Two Sides of the Same Coin
Why is it the innate response in humans to tense up, become defensive, and move into fight mode as soon as someone contradicts us? I have noticed this happen in a myriad of situations. Some are more obvious, such as when someone rudely tells us we are wrong or dumb for thinking differently. However, some are more subtle. One example of these subtle contradictions stems from my first experience sharing a room and bathroom with someone. In addition to sharing a bathroom we also shared a bottle of shampoo. After several days, I noticed a pattern of this person leaving the shampoo bottle lid open. I liked it to be closed. In my mind, it needed to be secured in the event that it might fall over and spill, because little remnants of shampoo kept drying out and getting crusty all over the rim, and simply because it looked cleaner. However, in her mind, it needed to stay open because it was quicker and more convenient to use if it was already open. At the time we did not take time to ver...